Maybe you have professional training, but have moments of "what the heck am I supposed to do with this?"
Heck this was me! I recall bringing my first child home from the hospital and thinking I am not ready for this. I thought to myself “How was I to be entrusted with a child and his life dependent on me? Yes I have a Masters Degree + extensive training in working with children and families, but I was sure to mess up. I did not feel completely prepared for this!
Maybe you struggle feeling like your parents managed so why can't you?
Maybe you were blessed with a great childhood and parents who were incredible role models who laid a solid foundation for you. You were set up well, but then you came across a situation that you were not prepared for, such as working while parenting, going through a divorce, illness, having a child with special needs experiencing a traumatic event like a car accident, or having miscarriages or difficulty getting pregnant. Or even Covid and having to be home all the time and/or needing to do virtual schooling.
Or what if you weren't given the necessary modeling to establish a solid parenting foundation?
You may have experienced a challenging childhood perhaps with trauma, addiction, divorce, death, or even an absent parent. Your foundation was rocky and unstable at times. Perhaps your parents couldn’t provide you with the emotional support that you needed because in reality they couldn't offer it even to themselves.
My approach is based on teaching. I believe the skills of effective communication, conflict resolution, and managing stress and anxiety are learned skills. You aren’t born with these abilities, rather you are taught how to do so. Thus, if you weren’t taught these skills by your parents growing up or if you are experiencing something you never experienced before, then you need to be taught how.
You will learn how to heal your emotional wounds so you can truly connect with yourself and your loved ones.
You will learn how to teach and support your children so they feel safe, loved understood & connected to you
Needing to be in sync with another person is very difficult. I am speaking from my own experience. I love my husband dearly, but sometimes I parent differently than him and needing to explain why I am doing something in my own way is exhausting and I do not want to do it. But what happens if we don’t communicate? Our children are confused because our schedule is thrown off or they are receiving one message from mom and one message from dad. Confusion then creates frustration and even sometimes chaos. If you and your co-parent live in different households, then you may experience an extra layer of complexity. I help parents navigate the journey towards creating consistency and better communication.
You were not given the toolkit of how to parent. So you may feel like you are doing the best you can, but falling short. That’s exhausting and defeating. I love partnering with parents who want to do it differently. The tools I teach are not super complicated. Rather they are simple and easy to use. You just need to have an open mind and be willing to try. I’m here to support and guide you through whatever comes up.
Kudos to you! If you feel overwhelmed, I could see why. You are juggling a lot of responsibilities and keeping your head on straight may be very difficult. I run my own practice as well as raise two beautiful little boys. I wouldn’t have it any other way, but it is hard at times. I’ve needed support to manage it all. I’ve had to learn (and am still learning too) how to get my own needs met while also the needs of my work and children. I’d love to support you so that you can experience feeling connected to your children instead of distracted and overwhelmed.
Having a child with special needs is both beautiful and challenging. I say both because it is the reality. Your child may teach you to slow down so that you can be present and enjoy moments more. On the other hand, the vision and hopes you have for your child is often not what is feasible (and that is something to grieve because it is a loss). I grew up with a sister (4.5 years older than me) who struggles with epilepsy and a learning disability. I have first hand experience into the complexities that arise for families who have a member with special needs. Plans often get changed, whether postponed or canceled, and lots of feelings get thrown in the mix. It’s hard to navigate at times. I aim to help parents and families navigate and learn how to communicate with each other as well as learn coping skills for when things don’t go as planned.