Relationships aren't easy!
I thought as a child that relationships were like what I saw in the movies - easy, full of romance, and frankly the best thing EVER! Trust me, I love my husband, but the decision to move towards him in a healthy and non attacking way when I feel hurt, unsupported, or ignored is one of the most difficult things for me. To choose to take a moment to stop, pause, and get calm before moving towards him takes everything in me. It's hard. But this hard work has paid off time and time again.
You might feel frustrated in your relationship.
Yes! I've felt that and still do from time to time. #1 your feelings are valid. Often I find the root of issues with couples is that the emotional needs of a partner (and likely both) are not being met. So what do you need to do? First, learn to validate your own feelings and overcome the fears often causing you to react in unhealthy ways. And then second, learn to do the same for your partner. Now, reading that may sound simple. And let me tell you it is, but only after you learn how to do it. I can teach you how to both emotionally support yourself as well as your partner.
There is power in doing this work together!
When relating with someone else, it's important to recognize that the other person isn't you. They have their own wants, needs, and thoughts. Also, they have their own past experiences that very much impact who they are today. What might seem each for you, might trigger your partner. Your task will be to grow in your ability to become aware and learn tools to respond vs react. Why I LOVE couples therapy is that partners are building awareness and learning TOGETHER during the session. The beauty is that communication is naturally happening both during and between sessions!
Believe me, I’ve been there.
My husband and I sought out couples therapy and wow benefitted greatly from it. It's why I am so passionate about what I do. I've been in your shoes and I've learned HOW to reconnect with myself and my husband!
And yes, connection is possible for YOU too!
My approach is centered on hearing your unique situation and teaching you tools and strategies that fit you, not what the textbook has outlined.
You will learn how to experience calm, so you can get out of survival mode
You will learn how to tolerate difficult feelings. You will sit with your feelings instead of avoiding them.
You will learn how to overcome your insecurities. I will guide you to restructure your negative thoughts patterns.
You will learn you CAN make an empowered choice to love yourself and connect with your loved ones
You will learn to guard your empowered self so when fears and difficult feelings come up you can stay in control
This call is designed simply to see if we are a good fit. We will chat about your current challenges, hopes for therapy and questions.