Healing Through Connection

Couples Counseling

For couples wanting to learn to communicate and rebuild their connection with one another

Have you or your partner thought...

Am I stuck? Will things ever get better?

Will I ever be able to NOT carry ALL the mental load?

How can we connect again if we've been disconnected for so long?

Am I the problem?

Are we repeating the same relationship challenges modeled to us from our parents?

Is our relationship worth fighting for? 

You are in the right place!
I am all about Empowering couples to heal, learn + reconnect!

My Philosophy

You just need to have a Desire & Willingness to Change...

I'll provide the Confidence + Steps!

Can our relationship get better?

Yes! You can improve your relationship!
 But let's chat about a couple things first...

Relationships aren't easy!
I thought as a child that relationships were like what I saw in the movies - easy, full of romance, and frankly the best thing EVER! Trust me, I love my husband, but the decision to move towards him in a healthy and non attacking way when I feel hurt, unsupported, or ignored is one of the most difficult things for me. To choose to take a moment to stop, pause, and get calm before moving towards him takes everything in me. It's hard. But this hard work has paid off time and time again.

You might feel frustrated in your relationship.
Yes! I've felt that and still do from time to time. #1 your feelings are valid. Often I find the root of issues with couples is that the emotional needs of a partner (and likely both) are not being met. So what do you need to do? First, learn to validate your own feelings and overcome the fears often causing you to react in unhealthy ways. And then second, learn to do the same for your partner. Now, reading that may sound simple. And let me tell you it is, but only after you learn how to do it. I can teach you how to both emotionally support yourself as well as your partner.

There is power in doing this work together!
When relating with someone else, it's important to recognize that the other person isn't you. They have their own wants, needs, and thoughts. Also, they have their own past experiences that very much impact who they are today. What might seem each for you, might trigger your partner. Your task will be to grow in your ability to become aware and learn tools to respond vs react. Why I LOVE couples therapy is that partners are building awareness and learning TOGETHER during the session. The beauty is that communication is naturally happening both during and between sessions!

Believe me, I’ve been there.
My husband and I sought out couples therapy and wow benefitted greatly from it. It's why I am so passionate about what I do. I've been in your shoes and I've learned HOW to reconnect with myself and my husband!

And yes, connection is possible for YOU too!

Whatever you case may be, I want you to know you aren't alone. 
You deserve the time to focus on your own needs and goals in the presence of a compassionate listener.

My Approach

 My approach is centered on hearing your unique situation and teaching you tools and strategies that fit you, not what the textbook has outlined.

First,

You will learn how to experience calm, so you can get out of survival mode

Second,

You will learn how to tolerate difficult feelings. You will sit with your feelings instead of avoiding them.

Third,

You will learn how to overcome your insecurities. I will guide you to restructure your negative thoughts patterns.

Fourth,

You will learn you CAN make an empowered choice to love yourself and connect with your loved ones

Fifth,

You will learn to guard your empowered self so when fears and difficult feelings come up you can stay in control

You can live the life you desire for yourself!
I would love to help equip you with the tools you need to be successful.

What are you waiting for?

Book a FREE 30 minute Connection Call NOW!

This call is designed simply to see if we are a good fit. We will chat about your current challenges, hopes for therapy and questions.

I’m looking to see if my approach will work for you.

I strongly encourage you to assess if you feel safe and open to working with me.

If we determine we aren’t a good fit, then I help you get connected to someone who is a good fit.

On the other hand, if we determine we are a good fit, then we schedule your first official session! 

Helpful Information

  • Sessions are 1-2 hours in length 
  • Total between 6 to 20 sessions
  • Homework assigned between sessions 
  • Rate of $150 to $200 per session 
  • MN Insurance Accepted: Optum (United Healthcare, UMR, Medica), Aetna, BCBS (only Commerical) UCare & Medical Assistance 
  • SD Insurance Accepted: Cigna, Aetna, Optum (United Health Care, UMR, Medica), BCBS / Wellmark, Avera, Sanford, Medicaid